Here we go! I mean, Welcome!

Hello, and welcome to my blog. I will address this now, get it out of the way and then we can move on. I am not a professional, I am outspoken and I am not an influencer nor am I great at grammar. Now I feel we have cleared that up we can crack on, hi, I am Tracey. I am 33 year old mum ( mam, if you are northern) to three wonderful children. I have to say that don’t I? Instead let’s just say they are ok. Like, they have their good days and bad days like most children… but they are mine and I love them. I have been married to my saner half - Dan for 8 years now but we have been together for 12 years. If you are good at math you will realise by reading below that we are a blended family - not one of those cool modern ones, oh no, more like one of those old fashioned ones. Bit crazy, a bit messy but a whole lot of love. I was a young mum. I was 16 when I gave birth to my eldest daughter, who is now 16. She is amazing, a great role model, beautiful although shy, great in school and an all round good kid. I by all means was not a perfect mum, but I always tried my best. I must have done something right though, as she is awesome - sorry daughter!

I was 21 when I had my son, we call him little boy blue, or no mans child. He is the middle child wedged between two girls and is often the first to escape our presence. Happy to hide away on his xbox, chatting to his mates and just being cool. Am I allowed to say cool? Do they call it something else these days? Frig it, I am saying cool. He has just turned 13 and got his ‘deep voice’ and we all find this hilarious - as does he. Then there is our youngest, Delilah. Not the Tom Jones Delilah - just to be clear, more the like the plain white tees song. My husband and I were 25 when we had Delilah. Delilah was born with complex medical needs that still today are undiagnosed. She is almost 9, and wonderfully funny with a dry sense of humour and just loves to talk. ALL. THE. TIME. So far, all we know about Delilah is she has a nystagmus, a form of ichthyosis, a movement disorder, delayed myelination, ASD and unable to walk or sit unaided. There is probably more and it will come to me later… But none of this stops her. She is determined, funny and sarcastic. And we love her, and her siblings. We are a blended family, meaning my husband isn’t father to all but that’s a story for another day. I created this webpage for a few reasons. Firstly, I must bore the crap out of people on my social media being one of ‘those mams’ like truly - I get it. Secondly, I want to make a difference, I have been lost in the SEND world, I have been at my lowest, picked myself up just to be knocked back down. I know what its like and I want to help parents who are just like me feel ok to not always be ok. Lastly, I feel strongly about changing the way parents feel after their first initial appointment. Although nothing can change the devastation you may feel from walking away from a Dr’s office knowing that your child is not healthy, or how you’d hoped but I do want to help the change the support that is provided afterwards. To know you aren’t alone, there is organisations to help with support, there is funding everywhere and there is parents in coffee groups waiting to give you a massive hug. This journey will be hard, but I am a hard worker and happy to help where ever I can. Welcome to the wonderfully special club, that no one asks to be in… the world of SEND. Tracey x *Delilah will be the only child I refer to by name, not for any other reason than not to embarrass the older two… because I have been warned basically and teenagers can be scary.*

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